well the threatening you to never do drugs was good, other than that he seems like an ass

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anonymous 8 years ago

sounds like he is on disability pension for mental illness related issues. if you don't want to be with him don't. if you think you can help change him into a better man and help him find a girl/or other and friends and a job why don't you help rather then criticise because no one is perfect. have empathy and praise him up and he will be a better person. when we are so judging of others its really about ourselves we are externalising our labels and values and seeking outside approval where as he doesn't at all he is just as he is. that takes courage and he sounds like he needs help and a positive influence in his life even if its not you. when people have a messy house that is about deep hurts and disappointments and rejection and abuse they have gone through and it comes out in house state and how they maintain themselves and a lot of people on disability fall into a addiction pattern of buy this, pay out that. he is lucky he gets some freebies and you could benefit from that but he also has a lot of anger and resentment there too. does he see a professional at all? can you call in a church group to help him clean his house and there are aged care or disability services to come in and clean and help them do house work and live with more dignity. I think what you need to get out of this is what you need. Can you or do you have the time to offer him some dignity or not? that is what you have to ask yourself. blood is thicker then water and family should help each other. you only ever have one family love. sounds like he has a good heart in some ways and you do too, but your worried about things he talks about and I would say "well I will move in with you if you are willing to get some help and go see a therapist and get a church and welfare group to help you clean and place back some dignity in your life and take him to church to meet people etc" set some rules if you do move in. I am thinking here, someone awfully mean has taken from him and abused him and he is afraid to tell you in fear of more abuse and that is why he has a messy house. when we feel bad within it comes out in how we end up living. so many victims of abuse and disability often people want to reject anything less then perfect but that is not good value system, because no one is perfect. you can have a man who is spotlessly clean and a drunk and violent to his wife and kids and yet a man who has a messy house and talks mean but has a inner heart of gold, he just afraid to be valuable and let someone in. squalled hovel victims are complex abuse victims look it up on google. psychologist say they are often people with great intentions and something bad happens and they never get over it. try some compassion for yourself and him and others and see how that goes. we all sometimes need some one to lean on in this world. I am going through a similar thing with my parents and myself even with my own retail shopping addiction and child abuse issues and can't find friends or jobs or dates and don't trust after abuse and car accident and rape. I have a disability from those things too. my parents can get in aged care cleaning but the house is so messy due to my dad, and his drinking and selfishness and all you can do is love them, its a disease. like my shopping is a painful thing i do to talk to people. but I feel sick doing it and I want to work but can't find work. its painful. have some faith in god and give back the dignity to others who have been robbed and abused of it. all you can do is love unperfect people like god loves you!

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anonymous 8 years ago

have you done drugs? I think if he grabs a sharp object at you that is risky behavior. that is domestic violence. you do have rights. so why does he destroy his possessions? like furniture or clothing ? how? in anger? sounds like rage episodes. a lot of anger and unresolved hurt and anger and resentment, disappointment and rejection there. he needs to get off drugs and get regular help like a probation officer or social worker or therapist. is the short temper from drugs or withdrawal or does he have manic, bipolar or signs of Alzheimer they do things like that too.

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anonymous 8 years ago

You sound like an uptight bitch. Get over it; I'm sure he'd rather be homeless than go anywhere near your fat ass

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Your brother 8 years ago