I get what you're saying, I imagine it's really getting ridiculous for those still doing the dating thing, for both. I'm not Bi or Lesbian so I don't know what that's all about and can't say. It's just my opinion, as a woman, I'm just sick and tired of this Ghost Business, the trail of tears and dust gone with the wind thing happens to women too, Live and learn I've been told by those that haven't gone through it wanting to console or have but managed to turn a blind eye and cold shoulder to their intimate downfalls and struggling to meet a good person demise, it's obviously caused many. These types that straight out tell you "not to fall in love with them".....what a strange lead to follow , we can just crush any lingering hopes of "could be more" with that. What's love got to do with anything now days anyways? Here's what I know and I've seen. There still are women out here that still find some men very much attractive. Still preferring and longing to have a close and personal one on one association with an equal mentality to FEEL and EXPRESS FEELINGS in an honest way. Like those (thought to be by appearances) women there's a lot of men out here not wanting any of that to get in their way , and shun such relationships they just want to be wild and free and run if the opportunity arises or is expressed outwardly in any way, yet, be a woman that with all good intentions noted signaled, or expressed wants to be exclusive and then get the sudden jolt of realism in the face of "it is what it is" gone, in truth,a no show,no explanation,none supplied even if one could ask, but can't ask a "ghost". I personally don't think many men can look and see past a third date after gainful achieving their "fix". They want instant gratification in whimsical careless booty calls, and just maybe, if "she's" still hanging on edge ,still lurking somewhere waiting for that call, oh how lucky, this could mean one/two nights a week, perhaps. I don't look at other women as even remotely attractive, In my mind I just don't mix women with any thought of intimacy in that way. I am an emotionally driven creature and place great significance and appreciation in being drawn to a man's energy, and effort and it all depends on both being on the same page yet from opposite poles about it. My thoughts come from a much deeper awareness and I'd just as soon stay single and deprived, if men keep approaching me with the only thing on their minds as far as any long term arrangement is some cocky hair brained flip~ped non chalant arrogance and wrong idea about any women they want to "get to know better" harboring any pre-concieved notion with disgusting attitudes as it's "nothing is to be taken serious" and "let's just be friends..... but with extra bonus of benefits", "a just for fun....no strings... deal", as to me is (don't tell your friends about us kind of kept hidden for a dark alley mystery to allow him to unfold as he sees fit or not ,some kind of given rule, cause those types of men keep their options open and constantly look intriguingly at all females) the same way boasting often silently to themselves, with no signs of changing. I suppose everything is for it's reasons, but instead of turning fault blame and self insult and emotional injuries inward anymore, I just chalk it up as a man's personality disorder and move on but that isn't to say to the next man, it's just a good excuse to return defeated into my own head trying to see what's wrong with me, to cope and get through it. I never have forgotten about any man that's cared about me, and I don't forget those who ignored me as if I did not exist after that time they think I got "lucky". All I have left is Peace to offer, hope is useless and futile wasted time in efforts to get a man to keep, and well, any sense of real love either never existed in the first place or has long since gone, a thing of the past for me. Good luck out there, and anyone who ghosts another is better off blowing on away.

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Marilyn 2 years ago